“I’m So OCD”... What Does OCD Actually Look Like?
- Janelle De Guzman
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Have you ever said or heard anyone say, “I’m so OCD” because they like things organized and clean? Although these can be symptoms, the truth is that OCD, or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, is so much more than just perfectionism and being neat.
OCD is a mental health condition that can feel distressing and exhausting. Some people feel stuck and trapped in the cycle of OCD because it can be hard to stop the anxiety around fears and the urge to do something to make that anxiety feel a little better.
What is OCD?
No matter what the presentation or type of OCD it is, it is made up of the same two parts and are within the same cycle:
Obsessions: recurring intrusive/unwanted thoughts, fears, urges, or images that can cause anxiety, stress, or increased fears.
Compulsions: repetitive behaviors or mental acts to temporarily reduce the distress and anxiety caused by the obsession.
The cycle can look like the following image:
In other words, the pattern is typically as follows:
intrusion/obsession → anxiety → compulsion → temporary relief → repeat
While compulsions may seem like they help and reduce discomfort in the moment, they merely provide temporary relief. That temporary relief teaches the brain that the compulsion “worked,” but it ultimately reinforces this cycle, making obsessions recur and even come back stronger over time.
Many people have intrusive thoughts, have perfectionistic tendencies, prefer organization/cleanliness, and double-check things before leaving or turning something in. These experiences alone don’t mean someone has OCD. One of the biggest clues is this question: is this behavior helping me live my life, or is it controlling/taking over my life?
What Makes OCD an Official Diagnosis?
To get a diagnosis, there has to be obsessions, compulsions, or both. This can start or intensify at any age, and it can be triggered by hormonal changes or trauma. The obsessions/compulsions are time-consuming and impair functioning, symptoms aren’t better explained by another disorder, condition, or substance, and these symptoms have to occur for most days within 2 weeks.
Below is an image that shows the detailed criteria according to the DSM-V for the disorder:
Common Types of OCD
Now that we know what OCD is, let’s explore what it can look like. Below are examples of common OCD subtypes:
Contamination OCD
Obsessions: fear of germs, illness, chemicals, bodily fluids, or feeling “contaminated.”
Compulsions: excessive handwashing, excessive cleaning/disinfecting, avoiding certain places, people, or foods, seeking reassurance (“Am I okay/clean?”)
Checking OCD
Obsessions: fear that you forgot something or that something bad/catastrophic will happen if you don’t verify, check, or confirm
Compulsions: repeatedly checking locks/doors, overly checking if stove/appliances are off, verifying emails over and over before sending, retracing your steps, seeking reassurance (“Are you sure I turned the stove off?”)
Harm OCD
Obsessions: fear of accidentally or intentionally hurting someone else.
Note: this is the most misunderstood form because the fears can occur even though they do not want to act on them. The fears typically conflict with a person’s values.
Compulsions: avoiding knives/sharp objects, hiding dangerous objects, avoiding driving, avoiding violent movies or games, avoiding being alone with loved ones, seeking reassurance (“Am I a safe person?”)
Moral/Scrupulosity OCD
Obsessions: fear of being immoral, sinful, or bad
Compulsions: excessive praying, repeated confessions/over-apologizing, seeking reassurance from others or religious leaders (“Did I do anything wrong?” “Did I offend you?”), avoiding morally ambiguous situations, mentally reviewing repeatedly if you’ve done something wrong
Relationship OCD (ROCD)
Obsessions: intense fears and doubts about one’s relationship, which can involve questioning if you are meant to be/right for each other, if you truly love your partner, and/or obsessing over your partner’s qualities or flaws
Compulsions: constantly analyzing feelings (“Do I feel a spark?” “Do I truly love this person?”), comparing relationships excessively, seeking reassurance (“Are we a good match?”, “Do you love me?”, “Do you think I should stay in this relationship?”)
“Just Right”/Symmetry OCD
Obsessions: fear that something isn’t “right” or symmetrical enough, feeling overly distressed when something feels uneven, imperfect, or out of place
Compulsions: needing to touch both sides of the body evenly, needing to arrange items “perfectly,” repeating words or actions a specific number of times until it feels “right,” constantly organizing and straightening items a precise way
Sensorimotor OCD
Obsessions: fear that one will be trapped in a sensation; hyperawareness of automatic body responses
Compulsions: tracking the rhythm of automatic processes (blinks, heartbeats, breaths), mentally ruminating on why you can’t stop, testing whether body processes are working “properly” (manually taking breaths, counting blinks/heartbeats)
Pure OCD (“Pure O”)
Obsessions: fear that something isn’t “right” or symmetrical enough, feeling overly distressed when something feels uneven, imperfect, or out of place
Compulsions: entirely mental, mentally reviewing/replaying events over and over, continuously ruminating and figuring something out/finding certainty, neutralizing intrusive thoughts with a “good” thought, excessive online research, seeking reassurance/certainty (“Am I a good person?”, “Did I do that right?”)
Although these subtypes look different and don’t each have a specific diagnosis, the OCD pattern/cycle for each subtype remains the same. People may also present with more than one subtype.
Final Thoughts
Although OCD is incredibly distressing, it’s treatable. The gold standard treatment is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), which helps people gradually face these fears, build their tolerance for distress, and ultimately resist, reduce, and get rid of their safety behaviors/compulsions. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and certain medications may also help reduce the heaviness and control OCD has on one’s life.
If you recognize these symptoms in yourself, you’re not alone. Reach out to our office or your therapist if you’d like to make an appointment and learn more about treating possible OCD.
Sources
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